I recently got married to a remarkable woman who has kids from a previous marriage. Her daughter is the sweetest thing alive; a 10-year-old angel whom I’ve grown to love more than her mom. However, the 16-year-old boy is the devil incarnate; he didn’t take the separation well and the last thing he wants is another guy replacing his dad.
I’ve tried being understanding and talking to him about it; we’ve even taken him to see a professional, but he just won’t budge. I want to build a relationship with him because I get how he’s feeling, but also because it’s just as important to his mom. Anyway, a friend from college who’s a psychology major mentioned that sometimes boys tend to interpret their mom remarrying as a situation where they need to establish dominance over their mom’s affection. I’m paraphrasing because it’s some Freudian mumbo jumbo I didn’t quite get.
Long story short, the same friend recommended I read this article to get an idea of some activities us boys might try as a means of toning down his hostility
https://studybreaks.com/thoughts/free-entertainment-for-students-in-2020/. Although it’s not in there, the article did give me an idea of how the two of us could “settle” the whole dominance thing: foosball.
I remember playing while I was in college and I thought I was pretty good. But the darn kid is a wonderboy or something! I can’t win a single game and now, instead of us connecting over it, he’s wiping the floor with me and bragging about it to all of his friends and his mom and sister. I need help! How do I get better, other than the obvious “practice, practice, practice?” Is there a strategy or tactic I can use? I’m feeling embarrassed and I want to get better so the two of us can finally talk about something other than what a “loser” I am!